When working with couples or multiple partners, I aim to help people strengthen connection, intimacy, and understanding in order to resolve conflicts and get out of destructive patterns. Even couples with “normal” levels of conflict may benefit from couples therapy. My goal is to help couples build stronger relationships overall and healthier ways to resolve issues as they arise in the future.
I have been trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) by its founder Dr. Susan Johnson. EFT is a short-term treatment approach whose goal is the reconnection between partners. This focuses on the ways in which underlying needs for attachment and connection may influence how we experience ourselves and our partners in relationship. EFT is one of the most evidence-based couple therapies. Research on the success of EFT indicates that couples move from distress to recovery in 10-12 sessions for 70-75% of cases, and creates improvements in 90% of couples coming in for therapy. These couples include partners suffering from disorders such as depression, post-traumatic stress, and chronic illness.
Further, I have been trained in the Gottman Method (levels 1, 2, & 3) which is an approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the couple relationship and integrates research-based interventions based on the Sound Relationship House Theory. The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, and affection, remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy in conflicting situations, and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.
In addition, I have been trained in Collaborative Couple Therapy by its founder Dr. Dan Wile. Collaborative Couple Therapy is a type of couple therapy that helps partners learn to shift out of an adversarial or withdrawn pattern and into a more collaborative one. This type of therapy assumes that the main problem is not what partners are arguing about, but rather their inability to help each other with it.
I work with people of all genders, sexual and or affectional orientations, and relationship structures.
Here are some common reasons why people come to see me for couple therapy:
- To work on communication problems and find healthier modes of expression
- To deal with conflict around “hot” topics such as finances, sex, and time
- To learn how to negotiate differences and find ways to collaborate when partners have very different styles
- To develop healthy boundaries
- To deal with jealousy
- To deal with breaches in trust and develop or re-establish a secure bond
- To negotiate boundaries related to polyamorous, non-monogamous, or open relationship structures
- To establish a solid foundation in the beginning of a relationship
- To have “big conversations” related to the relationship (e.g., marriage, family building)
- To deal with the relationship concerns that may arise when one or both people go through a major life transition (e.g., gender transition, getting into recovery, career change, significant loss)